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toxic yaoi
Dec. 22nd, 2024 10:15 pmthoughts coming from a guy who is so obsessed with non-issues to distract the mind from real, more important issues: how toxic is toxic yaoi?
it's become mainstream i've noticed, "toxic yaoi". like monsterfucking is mainstream but treated by the monsterfucking community as they're holier than thou for liking something soooo ~sick and twisted~ and ~ostracized~ ~problematic~ but is actually more common than you'd think. like my coworker is into that. i think it has always been, but i don't know when there was a sort of paradigm shift where toxic yaoi has become okay (in comparison to what i've been used to in the last few years). do we remember the era of everything in fandom being sanitized, and the commonality of callout posts? that's really died out, i think. maybe i'm just not in that space anymore to see it. i may be outing myself as a fandom boomer.
you could search on twitter "toxic yaoi" and there are so many posts. I just did, and there were about 10 posts containing "toxic yaoi" within the last 60 seconds. i feel like i'm missing something: what toxicity does toxic yaoi consist of?
i'm a fakejoshi and i don't read bl or yaoi, lol. so i have no idea of what is the current toxicity levels of bl being put out today. a significant lack of research on my part.
from what i've gathered, this toxic yaoi thing is popular with my friends. yay!
but what's getting to me is that nobody specifies the toxicity in their toxic yaoi, even in no shame zone like twitter. the way it's never specified and only referred to as toxic yaoi makes me feel like it's an inside joke i'm not included in. like is there coercion ? or are they just passive aggressive? i don't know! nobody is saying what they mean!
this uncertainty makes me still feel abnormal because i like things in a weird way and my toxic might be too toxic. i seriously can't tell if the people posting about toxic yaoi ACTUALLY like cheating and beating each other up and stuff or its a twitterwide inside joke that i'm not in on. i can't tell if my friends actually like that and i'm the weird one.
if any strangers come across this, feel free to leave comments with your thoughts. i don't know how to use this website very well yet (and i won't be tagging) but i think it's cute and i'd like to post my thoughts more.
will update if i think of other things related to this!!
it's become mainstream i've noticed, "toxic yaoi". like monsterfucking is mainstream but treated by the monsterfucking community as they're holier than thou for liking something soooo ~sick and twisted~ and ~ostracized~ ~problematic~ but is actually more common than you'd think. like my coworker is into that. i think it has always been, but i don't know when there was a sort of paradigm shift where toxic yaoi has become okay (in comparison to what i've been used to in the last few years). do we remember the era of everything in fandom being sanitized, and the commonality of callout posts? that's really died out, i think. maybe i'm just not in that space anymore to see it. i may be outing myself as a fandom boomer.
you could search on twitter "toxic yaoi" and there are so many posts. I just did, and there were about 10 posts containing "toxic yaoi" within the last 60 seconds. i feel like i'm missing something: what toxicity does toxic yaoi consist of?
i'm a fakejoshi and i don't read bl or yaoi, lol. so i have no idea of what is the current toxicity levels of bl being put out today. a significant lack of research on my part.
from what i've gathered, this toxic yaoi thing is popular with my friends. yay!
but what's getting to me is that nobody specifies the toxicity in their toxic yaoi, even in no shame zone like twitter. the way it's never specified and only referred to as toxic yaoi makes me feel like it's an inside joke i'm not included in. like is there coercion ? or are they just passive aggressive? i don't know! nobody is saying what they mean!
this uncertainty makes me still feel abnormal because i like things in a weird way and my toxic might be too toxic. i seriously can't tell if the people posting about toxic yaoi ACTUALLY like cheating and beating each other up and stuff or its a twitterwide inside joke that i'm not in on. i can't tell if my friends actually like that and i'm the weird one.
if any strangers come across this, feel free to leave comments with your thoughts. i don't know how to use this website very well yet (and i won't be tagging) but i think it's cute and i'd like to post my thoughts more.
will update if i think of other things related to this!!
